How Would You Honour A Soldier?

The recent terror attacks on Bombay have left every Indian feeling exposed and vulnerable. No place is safe. Who would have imagined that a five-star hotel would bear witness to such gruesome acts of terror and fright? We're all feeling the shock of the awful attacks in Mumbai. All our hearts go out to the victims and their families. I'm writing this because I feel we need to honor their memory.

The attacks were aimed at our people, our prosperity and our peace. Their top target was something else: our unity. If these attacks cause us to turn on each other in hatred and conflict, the terrorists will have won. They know that hatred and chaos feed on division. They also know they are radical extremists, and their only hope of reaching society as a whole is by turning the rest of us against each other.

India is a country with a great heritage and she has witnessed insurgence, wave after wave, and attacks by foreign invaders in the past. After attaining independence, we have had a more or less peaceful existence barring the China-India war in the 1960s and the wars with Pakistan including the unforgettable Kargil war. In both cases, India won victoriously and once again made us Indians realize the importance of our defense forces and brought about a surge of patriotism and respect mixed with awe towards the armed forces of our great nation. Awareness spread through the press and media, first hand reports, eye-witness accounts of events and incidents, and about the brave acts of the soldiers. Common man realized that everyone owed their freedom and life to these selfless souls who pledged their lives for the safety of their country men. While we sat in our cozy living rooms and watched the events unfold on TV and radio, these brave men and women lost their lives saving the nation from infiltrators.


Becoming a soldier is the noblest duty one can take up. However, not many have the will power and dedication to take the decision and actually become one. It is those who have immense love for their nation, and concern for the lives of their countrymen who actually become soldiers – and remain soldiers till the very end.

These brave souls, who are subject to the worst of conditions on the frontlines of war, deserve more than just medals of honour. Even though it may sound controversial, I recall when Abhinav Bindra won the Gold medal for shooting in the recent Olympics, several state Governments individually honored him with prize money totaling to nearly 1.66 crores. For a person highlighting the name of our Country in International forum – we choose to honor. It is good and will be a motivator to several such aspirants. But, one must also think of our soldiers and policemen who brave it each day in the line of duty unflinchingly and take the beating when the fail. Why are these unsung heroes not rewarded in such a fashion? Why don’t the governments take pride in lavishing these living heroes and those that have sacrificed their lives with honour?

I take pride in the fact that “Melur Meadows” a unique gated community project coming up near Coimbatore, chooses to think differently and act practically. We lead by example. We take pride in honoring all war heroes and people from the armed forces, people who serve the nation in the truest sense possible.

www.melurmeadows.com – our website will give you a clear idea about what this unique gated community is all about.

Once a soldier, always a soldier. Strong willed and brave. Conditioned to face any situation, committed to a cause. Most of all dependable and a person who can lead and be looked upon as an Idol or mentor. We would love to have people from the armed forces in our unique gated community so that people are motivated and patriotic. For this very reason, we offer cottages at discounted prices for people from armed forces/ war heroes. We plan to have a mini India. Ours is not about real estate, but about the package of services that come with it. A mini India with people form all walks of life, all parts of India, live together in Unity, harmony and peace. In a safe and secure location.

The pollution free, tranquil atmosphere and not to forget the ideal location near several scenic spots making this an ideal holiday home for all. A simple, laidback lifestyle in a village setting, but with all modern amenities and facilities available within the community. Visit our website and know for your self the true meaning of “CATCHING UP WITH HAPPY LIVING”.

Life at Melur Meadows..

A perfect place to catch up with happy living….
Zipping through the highway en route Melur Meadows, in less than an hour, you would have the enchanting views of natural beauty amidst marvellous natural woods and coconut canopies, ancient temples that pepper the route, pulsating paddy fields sprinkled with enchanting waterways, and canals decked with white lilies. Then, amidst this sylvan surroundings, nestled in a beautiful hamlet get ready to be enthralled by a place where you can hear nothing except quaint and cheerful bird songs and swish of swaying trees and feel nothing except the inescapable joy of being with your loved ones. Melur Meadows is undoubtedly the place you have always dreamt to spend the rest of your life in.

This gated community offers a total of 150 living quarters spread across 9 acres of pristine lands. Comfortably segregated into different styles are Studio Apartments and luxury cottages, satisfying the interests and budget of individual investor with world-class amenities with best in architecture, infrastructure and security. Each abode comes fringed with a kitchenette, bedroom (s), beautifully fitted bathroom, internet cabling, telephone, intercom, TV Cabling.

All residents have access to gym, spa, cafeteria/community kitchen, business center, library, yoga and meditation hall for the spiritually inclined, hobby center, spa, hot tubs, gym, shops, nursing/ medical care, maids and servants, tennis courts, swimming pool, our own animal farm, vegetable and herbal gardens... and you can even indulge in some community service you have been thinking of so long, in the nearby villages and much more… You can have all this at starting prices as low as Rs.10 lacs now.



Elevation of Deluxe Cottages.


A calm location.










Spa

yoga and meditation center

Can a city dweller have Green dreams ?

Many people find gardening an incredibly relaxing hobby. A hobby that allows them to get in touch with the earth and themselves. Likewise, gardening is not an expensive hobby to start, although the hobby may become expensive as you progress in the art of planting. Needless to say, thousands of people enjoy gardening each year and if you are fond of the outdoors, you may find yourself interested in gardening too.
You won't need much to start gardening. Some basic tools like a shovel, a rake, and hoe may do you well in the garden. You will need either seeds or starter plants, whichever you prefer. But, how does one actually become an expert at it? Well, gardening comes naturally to us humans as we have nurtured and and used plants from time immemorial for our own use and benefits. Still, it helps list out the following before we actually venture into large scale gardening...

What is your budget? It could start from as little as Rs.10/- to thousands of Rupees depending upon the following...

1.Is it indoor / outdoor or terrace gardening that you are venturing into
(a) If it is indoor – what sort of time are you willing to devote each day. If you lead a busy life with much of you time spent away from home, the choice of indoor plants must be made wisely and the plants inside the house must also be located strategically to take in most of the natural lighting available from windows or the balcony.
(b) If it is window boxes that you desire – on the sill of your bedroom/ kitchen windows, you will once again have to choose your plants wisely and also have iron brackets installed to hold the plant box you desire to install.
(c) If it is terrace gardening you plan to do, (a) would it be on a large scale with soil and lawn all over the terrace or potted plants placed in rows on the terrace.
2.If you are lucky enough to have a patch of land where you can have a garden, then what is the amount of open space or soil space you have?
3.What sort of gardening venture are you getting into – something that will yield fruit or vegetables soon after planting, or something that will take time to grow and bear fruit – like fruit trees.
4.Having decided this, one must take into consideration the climate prevalent at the place and the soil type.

I am a city dweller, and even though I have an immense desire to garden, I am unable to do so because of the following factors like space constraints (I live in an apartment), rules laid out by the flat association, necessity for conservation of water, objections that may be raised by other residents, etc. For example, I cannot put up anything on the terrace, such as a small shade to protect my plants from direct sunlight, as it is against the association rules.
These things, trivial though they may be, ensure that my dream garden remains a dream and nothing more, at least for now. I, however, intend to have a garden no matter what happens, even if it means having to wait till my husband retires. But then, even after retirement, WHERE?
I think the solution lies in self-sufficient gated communities in rural areas, with cottage-type residences coupled with resort-like facilities one looks for in today's world. One such dream getaway is 'Melur Meadows', a safe, secure, tranquil, peaceful and pollution-free colony near Coimbatore, Tamil Nadu. I came across their website www.melurmeadows.com. Upon going through I was impressed by the various options that ones gets. The best part is that it is so affordable that one can go in for a cottage and let the company's property management scheme take care of the letting out, taxes, rentals etc and we could visit it as a holiday getaway whenever we have a holiday. It is just awesome. I am glad such alternative lifestyles are available at affordable costs.
If you're wondering what this community has to do with gardening, then here's the answer. Melur Meadows gives each of its residents their own garden patch, where they can grow absolutely anything they want! There will be garden festivals, gardening competitions and displays! Oh what fun. I cant wait to get there. The community starts full-fledged by December 2009.
I urge like-minded people to visit the website and find out for themselves. Think of what you could do, provided with your own garden patch... Isn't it a dream come true for sore city-accustomed eyes?
Think about it!!

Nuclear families - is it the norm or a choice

From the time I've been around ( not that I am very ancient), but long enough to see the changes happening in family settings especially in the middle classes.

Talking of Chennai, the city has changed, progressed and has come a long way since I was a kid. It now is truly deserving of the title 'Metro city". The slums continue to be there, the dumps, pollution and crowds have only increased, but the change I see now, is in the residents- their attitude.

Having said that, what I saw as a kid was houses full of people. Every household would have grandparents, sometimes, uncles and aunts thrown in as well. It used to be a matter of shame not to have a grandparent around to tell you mythological stories every night. Few of my friends who were deprived, were a miserable lot and would shy away with a complex for not having grandparents, uncles and aunts around.

As I grew up, it was thought to be very wrong if people chose to live as a nuclear family without additional tags of their parents, brothers or sisters. The daughter-in-laws were termed "house breakers" for trying to lure their husbands away and start living in their own terms and conditions. Many such "bahus" were shunned and were thought to be a bad example to other girls ( both unwed and wedded ones). Their freedom and lifestyle was envied by many. I have heard my mother and other aunts discuss among themselves about those lucky ladies who knew how to steer their husbands away from interfering in-laws. The new found financial freedom and unfettered lifestyle, no customs and rituals to be followed as per family norms, the freedom to choose to spend your money and leisure the way you like and most of all having a say in the way you want your children brought up - these were the positives tilting the heavy points pro nuclear family. Women were starting to get assertive and found this freedom gave them the opportunity to explore new vistas of life. It was not just the women, but also the men. It is a well known fact that "Happier a woman is, the less complicated will be a man's life". A satisfied woman is capable of taking care of her entire family ( her man included) very well and keep them happy too. This suited the men as, all they want is a simple, uncomplicated life so they can get on with their pet projects.

With the advent of this widely accepted new lifestyle, people don't find a nuclear family as something peculiar or new. On the contrary, if you come across a joint family, that would be termed as peculiar under the present living situation. People refuse to compromise on their freedom and space and are quite open about it. Most of the present generation ( who themselves are byproducts of nuclear families) have no understanding of a joint family and its significance.

This again, I feel is because of the financial independence and the luxuries that one can afford with the money. An acquaintance of mine, a modern woman who works full time, with a 3 kids , believes that she can be truly happy only when she is in-charge and runs the family the way she desires. She prefers to hire a cook and two maids for house work rather than have her in-laws around. She is unwilling to share her territory. Now, who am I or you to judge her? She finds comfort in ruling the roost in her kingdom. While her mother-in-law laments having lost her son to a possessive witch.

The most recent trend that I am noticing now is the great demand for parents to play the role of grand parents!! Young married couples now realize that their children are safe when taken care of by their own grandparents and they also stand to gain a lot by this. No extra salary for baby sitting. The parents double up as cleaners and cooks also. Parents also unflinchingly go ahead and help out when ever they can. Its because of the boundless love and affection that they have towards their children that the parents go abroad to foreign lands and serve their kids.

A neighbouring family of mine an old man-aged 78 and his wife aged around 73. They do their regular rounds to the USA to help out their daughter and son with their small children. Each time after VISA period is over they return to India. When they breath the air here and meet with their siblings, kith and kin, they find incredible joy. When they go to live with their children, they describe it as a a luxurious life, but within a "golden cage", a "cage" nevertheless. They get all the luxuries, get to visit new places etc. but their freedom is severely curbed. Once back in India, they are independent and go about visiting people and places as they please.

It is in this context that I am now seeing several senior people preferring a gated community or retirement home, where they can be secure and mix with like minded people. They make plans and go on jolly trips, pilgrimages and have lot of fun doing activities they love doing, pursuing their hobbies etc. There are a few such places in India, that offer these things in totality and are really as good as they claim to be. One such place that is coming up is Melur Meadows - a gated community near Coimbatore. I learnt about this in their web site www.melurmeadows.com Upon further inquiry, i have come to know of some of my NRI friends who have gone in for a property for their parents to stay when in India. It is more or less like a resort with community kitchen, medicare, hobby centre, gym, spa, swimming pools and so much more and the company lets it out on rent when the owners are not occupying it.

I would like to know your opinion on such communities that are cropping up in India. Is independent living good for old people? Are they happier when they are in their mother land, living among like-minded people, their siblings and friends? Are they not supposed to be living with their own children whether they are in India or abroad? Are seniors happy when they have the freedom and mobility to do what they like, when they like? What is your take on this?